This time of year is always the hardest on single women. The cold weather makes you want someone warm to snuggle with anyway, but the holidays make it so much worse. Not only are you forced to sit through endless holiday films (which always have a happy “fall in love” ending), but you’re also forced to watch couples shopping together or holding hands in the soft glow of the streetlamps on cold winter evenings.
It sucks to be alone, doesn’t it?
You don’t have to be alone anymore though. In fact, getting a man (any man) to fall in love with you isn’t nearly as difficult as it might sound. You might feel like it’ll never happen, you might even believe that it just isn’t in the cards for you, but I can tell you that it is.
These are just some of the gems you’ll get from his guide.
1. Decide what kind of a man you want
If you had to choose a man, anyone you want, what kind of a man would he be? I know my type of guy, and anytime I try to date outside my type it just doesn’t work out. You have to know exactly what you’re looking for before you can go out and find it
2. Decide what kind of a woman YOU want to be
It isn’t only important to decide what kind of a man you want to have in your life, but you also really have to decide what kind of a woman you want to be. You can’t truly get to know and love another person until you truly know and love yourself. It isn’t always easy though, is it?
Sometimes the loneliness we feel makes us forget who we are because we’re so focused on finding someone to get rid of the loneliness. It shouldn’t be that way, though. Be happy with yourself first, and then you’ll be happy with someone else.
3. Have hobbies and be interesting
Men LOVE interesting women! If you have no brains and no hobbies or interests, then he’s going to get bored with you real quick! Find yourself a hobby so that you have something to talk about with your man. Not only are hobbies good conversation pieces, they are also excellent self-esteem builders for ladies who just aren’t quite sure of themselves.
4. Dress for success
I am the poster child for bumming around in my jeans and baggy shirts. In fact, unless I have to wear make-up, I usually don’t, which is great for me, but not so great for picking up a man. As much as I hate to admit this, it is an absolute must that you look your best wherever you go if you want to land a guy.
I met a man at work today and I probably would have talked to him if I’d remembered to put on a little make-up this morning, but since I looked like the walking dead, I just smiled and hoped he didn’t inwardly cringe at my appreciative glance his way. In other words, brush your hair, put on a little mascara and lipstick. Be presentable. You never know where you’ll meet Mr. Right.
5. Be healthy
Take care of yourself! Eat right, take your vitamins, and get some sun, girl! If you don’t feel you’re best, you’re not going to be putting off your best energy. In fact, did you know that other people pick up on the energy you give off? If you’re feeling sick, they know. If you’re feeling blue, they know. If you’re always exhausted and don’t take care of yourself, then you’re not going to have the chance or the energy to get your man!
6. Educate yourself
Men really do love intelligent women, I’m not kidding about that. One of the ways I decide if a guy is right for me or not is if he’s at all impressed with my intellect. If a man doesn’t seem to appreciate my intelligence, or worse, if he is offended that I know more about something than he does, I know it’s not a good match for me.
Don’t play the role of the pretty idiot, a woman worth keeping has more than air between her ears! Take a class, or brush up on reading some classics…or even listen to world news on the radio. Intelligence is sexy!
7. Be happy with your life
No man wants to date a woman who is always depressed. You might FEEL depressed, but you can’t act depressed if you’re going to attract your man. In fact, you should do everything in your power not to even feel depressed! Happiness is imperative to romance, and until you’re happy with yourself, you won’t be happy with anyone else.
8. Keep things together!
If you have a cluttered home and a messy car, you won’t get very far with the men. Men want women who are clean and well kept, who have it together! Make sure your home is clean, it smells good, and that you keep things organized and tidy if there is a possibility you decide to have Mr. Right over to your place one evening.
9. Exercise…exercise…exercise!
I’m not telling you to lose weight. In fact, I personally think curvy women are very attractive (and I’m not just saying that because I’m curvy). What I’m telling you to do is get out there and exercise because it boosts your energy, makes you happy, and gives you stamina. Plus, your chances of meeting Mr. Right increase if you get out there and go to the gym (or take a walk, or ride your bike…you catch my drift).
10. Don’t be high maintenance
Guys hate waiting. It’s a fact. I think, for the most part, all humans hate waiting for something. That’s why it’s important you’re not one of those women who take three hours to get ready for a date and are then late for the reservation. Also, don’t be one of those picky women who only order the salad when she really wants a burger.
If you order the salad because you want the salad, that’s okay, but if you order it because you don’t want him to see you eat, then you’re not only being high maintenance, you’re also lying to him. Get a burger, but remember your lady-like manners too.
11. Have a mind of your own
Have an opposing opinion on the current political issues? Are you in total disagreement with his opinion of your favorite film? Don’t be afraid to voice your opinions. Men love women who can handle their own. Now, I’m not saying start a heated debate with him over every conversation, I’m just saying not to pretend to be someone you’re not. He’ll love you for YOU, not for pretending to be HIM.
12. Be confident in who you are and your abilities
Are you a math whiz? Are you some sort of super computer guru? Do you have every Wonder Woman comic book ever made? Whatever your accomplishments are, revel in them! If nothing else, simply let him be amazed at your own personal self-confidence in who you are just as yourself. Confidence is the first thing a man notices in a woman, and no guy wants to have to battle your feelings of insecurity (it’s too much work).
13. Show him you appreciate him
Okay, now that you’re you in all of your perfection and imperfection, and you’re happy and confident in who you are, it’s time to focus your attention at him. To get a man to fall in love with you it’s important you recognize what he brings to the relationship.
Thank him when he takes you out to dinner, appreciate and commend him on his successes, and be polite as well as caring to him. Make him feel like he’s the only man in the world, and make him recognize that you do appreciate and listen to him.
14. Be honest
Be honest with a man about your intentions. If you’re not ready for sex, then don’t have sex. If sex to you is casual and you’ll be seeing other people, be honest about that as well. Whatever your views on this relationship are, before you get too deep, you have to be up front with him to make sure you’re both on the same page. Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to romance.
15. Be the one to blow his mind!
Finally, if you want to get and keep the man of your dreams, you have to blow his mind! Be an amazing, strong woman. Be yourself just as you are, be someone he absolutely won’t forget and the kind of woman he can’t get out of his mind.
If he asks you on a date but you already have plans with the girls, tell him you already have plans with the girls and ask if another day would be better. Revolve your world around YOU and not him, and he will be putty in your hands. Don’t believe me? Give it a try.
Remember, decide what you want, figure out who you are, be the best you can be inside and out, and show him you are confident and intelligent… that’s how you make a man fall in love with you.
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